God VS Idol
went through your mind when you read these headlines?
And they're real headlines!
"Fan sells house to
see Andy Lau's concert"
"Fan suicide because
of debt incurred as a result of money spent on her
"Fan cut finger
sending to Leon to show her love"
Idolizing is WRONG
You may not love anyone or
anything more than you love God...
not worship, or put more importance on any person or
thing, other than God. You must worship only the Lord,
not your parents, not a friend, not a movie star or
sports hero, not a car or boat or skate-board. Nothing.
As a person who has
seen miracles from God and believe in God, I feel I
have to lead you all to the right path with God. You
have come to this page because you like Aaron Kwok.
Some of you just like him for whatever reason. Others
have let this admiration go too far to become an
obsession. And yet others could be on the path to
obsession with other pop stars. The followings
are my suggestions and I hope they would
be of help to you.
If you are to
follow God's teaching 100%, you should try to get rid
of idolization altogether. I believe you are not
idolizing a star if all you do is watch their movies,
concerts, and listen to their music. You are
idolizing them if you start to spend a lot of time on
them, a lot of money on them, follow them everywhere,
and they become your only joy and love. If you
find yourself doing these compulsive behaviors, you
need to control yourself and I urge you to pray to God
for his guidance. You can pray something like,
"God, please help me to find you and help me to let go
of this bad habit of idolization, which I know is bad
for me. Please help me find self-control".
I believe it doesn't matter what religion you are,
there is only one God. I am a Buddhist and I
prayed to God and found my answers, so I believe you
can pray to him too.
But if you can't
let go of idolization at once, you can do it slowly by
controlling it. But keep praying and before you know
it, you're going to be rid of your destructive
Time: No more than
one hour should be spent on finding out news,
pictures, videos, etc... of your favorite star
find other hobbies to keep you interested.
You have a problem if your favorite star is your only hobby.
In this case, please seek help with a friend,
psychologist, or someone you trust. Talk it out,
don't be afraid.
Money: spend only
what you can afford. For example, if you have $100
dollars and you need it for school, clothes, foods,
etc...spend it on what you need first, then the
leftover you can use to collect items of your favorite
star. I'd say only 5-10 % of your money should
be spent on your favorite star.
DO NOT COMPARE THE GUYS OUT THERE TO YOUR FAVORITE
STAR. Stars have money, make-ups, and technology
to make them look good. They also have money and
resources and have a good life with much less stress
than us, so they stay young and good-looking.
But please, don't expect your boyfriend to look like
them or smart like them. What you should look
for most in a boyfriend/girlfriend is their
personality and whether they love and support you.
And if your spouse/partner or family is opposed to
your obsession, please try to not protest them.
You know they just want what is good for you.
And why should you let your obsession for someone who
you don't know and who does not care about you to
damage your real valuable relationships with those
around you who care and love you?
Perfection: PLEASE DO
NOT THINK YOUR FAVORITE STARS ARE PERFECT! THEY
ARE NOT! ONLY GOD IS PERFECT! You do not
know them personally so there is no way you can tell
if they are good people. When they do charities,
some do it because they wanted to help, some do it out
of societal responsibility, some do it because they
want to make themselves look good and promote
themselves. Stars are humans too, so they also
love, hate, socialize, have the good sides and the bad
sides like all of us.
Stalking: Please do
not stalk the stars. Cut a class during an exam
day to see a star because you heard he/she came to
your area for a function is WRONG. Catching
their sight once in a while is okay, but do not make a
habit that you have to follow them everywhere all over
the world - from Asia to America. And any star
that likes this from their fans is not a good star.
A good superstar must discourage such negative
obsessive behavior from their fans. They don't have to
be mean about it but say the discouragement nicely.
Possession: Stars are
human who needs love just like everyone of us. They
are not our possession nor are they our
boyfriend/girlfriend. Please try to be
understanding and accepting and let them know that
they deserve to have a normal relationship and love.
You can show this to them by telling them you will
support them even if they have a girlfriend/boyfriend.
You may not like their choice of partner and you can
say why you don't like that person, but don't threaten
to stop supporting them just because they have a
partner. You know your favorite star is not your
boyfriend/girlfriend. He/she does not belong to
you. Please accept this fact so that you
don't become "heart-broken" when they find a partner.
do you want to follow Godís teaching?
If you are a
Christian, you will believe itís necessary to follow
Godís will/words to earn your salvation. If you
are a Buddhist, Buddha also teaches "desire is the
source of all pains and sorrows". If you do not
believe in God, the suggestions will still help your
life more balanced. You may not think your
obsession is harmful, but try to look deep and ask
yourself honestly whether your obsession is affecting
your life negatively in some ways. If you find
that it does affect you negatively, then you need to
control it or get rid of it altogether.
For those who donít
believe in God, please start praying to find him now
because we may be running out of time. And should
you question if God is real, Iíll tell you GOD IS REAL.
I was a person raised in America and was once a person
who only believes in Science and no God. But
things happened in my life. I tried to look for
answers through psychics and the psychics do see things
before they happened to me. Why do psychics saw
things before they happened? Science cannot
explain this. Science will always try to turn
things around and make something they do not believe in
seem unreal and stupid. But after all that I have
got to experience with psychics, no science can try to
convince me itís only ďtrick of the mindĒ. So if
psychics can see beforehand the things that were going
to happen in my life, then there must be more to life
than what we see in feel everyday. Science cannot
explain psychic and thus it cannot prove God. But
I know GOD IS REAL because when I prayed for him with my
sincere heart, HE ANSWERED MY QUESTION AND HELPED ME
THROUGH MY HARDEST TIMES.
Psychic is real, but do not get involved!
Although psychic is
real, PLEASE DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH PSYCHICS! Most of
them (95%) only out there to deceive you and get your
money. I was the victim. They have lied to me, telling
me things only to make me happy, tried to beat around
the bushes to take more time to get more money, they
have scared me, and they have made me very confused.
Only a few are true psychics who really see things and
tell you what they really see. Although my trusted
psychics have seen accurate predictions, they still
confused me many times and I was disappointed a few
times because they told me things that are much better
than what actually happened. Still, I thanked them for
giving me confidence to face obstacles when I was down,
and because of them, I believe there are spirits and
therefore, GOD. I sought out psychics to find my
answers but I was led to God. You can consider I
am lucky. Others can be led so strayed that they
never find God, instead, they become one of them evil
psychics who deceive people trying to get their money.
Or worst, they can get involved with Black magic (ie:
spells). I am truly lucky and thankful I have
strong protections that I found my way back. But,
now, I am God's follower, and because God had helped me
during my down time, therefore, now I must do what God
tells me to do. And God says ďDO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH
PSYCHICS, FORTUNE-TELLING, ASTROLOGY, AND ANY FORM OF
DIVINATION AND SPIRITISMĒ I do hope that my trusted
psychics are truly good psychics but if theyíre not,
hope they find God one dayÖ
Why are my
Please note the
above are my suggestions, not Godís words, but my
suggestions are to help you to not let your idolization
become a problem in your life. I feel I am qualified to
tell you these suggestions because I HAVE BEEN THERE IN
YOUR PATH SO I KNOW. Aaron Kwok was once the central of
my life. I loved him since I was 12 years old (itís
been 13 years now). I viewed him as an idol, an image
of ďperfectionĒ. I put him on the pedestal where to me,
he was beautiful inside and out. Every guy I met, I
compared them to Aaron and you bet Ė no one could take
his place so I was not interested in anyone! Even
after I met the love of my life, I still have problem
with him due to my Aaron's obsession. Effort wise, I spent a
lot of time working on AK's web sites and following on
his news. I spent a lot of money to collect his
things. In fact, my first job when I was 15 was to
have money to collect his things. Back then when I did not have God in my life, I
didnít think what I was doing was wrong. I just thought
it was a hobby that went too far but harmless. But now
I realize my obsession with Aaron has interfered with my
relationships and somewhat my life. I lost self-control
when I was obsessed about him.
However, I must also
mention that my Aaron's addiction is not all negative
because as I said before, I started my first job at 15
was because I wanted to have money to collect his
things. And I sometimes look up to Aaron's
accomplishments, fearless energy, and work dedication to
motivate me to try something I was afraid of doing.
And doing his web sites is fun as I learned how to
create many things and it keep my creative juices going.
Yet, now that I am
following on Godís path, I know that my idolization is
wrong regardless of what positives it brought. God
says it's wrong then it's wrong. Every law that
God put forth is not to restrict us but for our own
goods. We may not understand why God forbid a
certain things, but if we do the things he tells us not
to do, we would get into trouble. God does not create
troubles for you. His laws are there to protect
you. He knows certain things will cause you
problems so he told you not to do them to keep you away
from harm, but if you don't listen to him, then you will
get in trouble due to your own choosing.
So because God says
idolization is wrong, I know I should shut this site down for good.
But I have spent so much effort on it; I donít want to
just discard it. So Iíll keep it, but at the same time
I want to use it to help you guys to find God. I still
want to love Aaron because heís my entertainment, but
now I only love him as an entertainer. Heís no longer
ďperfectĒ and he really isnít! No one is, only God is
perfect! But I still admire Aaron for his work
dedication and talents. I have some doubts about his
personalities, but I still believe Aaron is a nice guy
as I saw him doing many charities and even have his own
charity foundation. Recently, he's also said
one of his wish for the later half of his life is to
spend more time
and effort on helping the old and sick. I hope he means
what he says and not saying it just to make people think
As for all of you, I
hope you guys will continue to support Aaron but that
you will also control yourself so that you don't
"idolize" Aaron. We can continue to watch his
movies, listen to his music, and attend his concerts,
but we should try not to love him like he's "perfect" or
like a boyfriend or let our love for him turn into
obsession that interferes with our lives. And I
hope you all find God, who really is in all of us.
All we need to do is call out to him with a sincere
Question of the day:
Lastly, I have this
question for you and the stars to ponder, and let's try
answering it from the spiritual perspective:
Why most stars are not happy
and lonely even though they have fame and fortune?
they are fulfilled, but most never have satisfying
relationships. Why? Just look at them.
How many of them have stable relationships? How
often do you read about stars being treated for
depression or drug abuse? Why do the biggest stars kill
themselves (example: Marilyn Monroe, Elvis Presley, and
Leslie Cheung)? And did it ever make you wonder why a
megastar like Britney Spears, who seemed to have
everything, also suffered repeated abandonment and was
used by her husband, K-Fed? It does not matter what is
the cause of their unhappiness, many stars are unhappy
regardless of the fame and fortune they have.
Looking things from
a spiritual point of view based on the law of karma, I am supposing that they
are lonely and unhappy because they make their fans
obsessed with them and by now, after all of my preceding
explanation, you should understand why obsession
Yes, it's also the fault of the fans that they get
themselves to become obsessed with the stars, but when
the stars decided to follow the stardom route, many have
one thing in mind: to seduce and make as many people like
possible because the more popular they are the better as
their income depends on their popularity. So
consciously or unconsciously, many stars wanted to make
people like them, and this admiration sometimes go too
far to become obsession. Everyone wants fame and fortune, so I am not blaming the
stars, but I hope they use their fame and fortune to
benefit society and actively discouraging obsessive and destructive
behaviors from their fans.
From the karma
perspective, stars are lonely and unhappy in their
relationships because they cause obsession in fans,
which in turn cause the obsessed fans to be lonely.
They get what they sown. Obsession can result in Loneliness
because it affects the person's relationships with the
self and with others. With the self, obsession of a star
distorts one's definition of what is "ideal". With
others, a person who is obsessed with a star may
not take interest in potential mates because no one can
match up to the star. What about those of you who
argue with your boyfriends because of their opposition
to your obsession? And how many of you who protest
against your parents when they oppose to your habit of
spending too much on the things of your favorite stars?
That causes damage to your "real" relationships that
really important to you. Was it worth it to let
your love for someone who you do not know and who do not
care for you to damage the love of those around you who
loves, support, and care for you?
Some can even go so
far and create disastrous troubles for themselves.
For example the Andy Lau fan who sold her house to have
money to attend his concert!
And I think Leon should
feel very guilty after the death of one of his fans who
incurred huge debts as a result of her trying to collect
everything about him and attending every one of his
functions. When she died, she even left a note
telling her parents to bury Leon's souvenirs with
her body. This girl's action is just too wrong and
she never realized her wrongdoings because even after
she died she still wanted to have something of Leon to
be with her. How would you feel if this girl was
your child or sibling? Terribly heart-broken...
I know Leon did not
mean for this to happen, but he knows that when he
becomes a superstar with such handsome looks, he'd make
lots of girls crazy about him. What's been done
cannot be undone. But now, stars should learn from
these unfortunate incidents and frequently discourage
their fans from such destructive compulsive obsession.
Don't wait until mishaps happen before you do it out of
Do it now...tell your fans often that you do not like
them to engage in obsessive behaviors.
I like it when Aaron
said one time in a news report, "Don't give me
flowers. Take the money and donate it to my
charity foundation instead." Now, I'd like to
hear him saying "I love my fans, but I hope they don't
spend too much money and time on me, or let their love
for me interfere with their relationships. Aaron
Kwok will not like such fans."
I am waiting to hear
this from you, Aaron!